If you’re over the age of 2000, you know that flirting has changed a lot over the years. This guide on how to flirt like a pro will share some of the changes with you as well as give you some insight into what makes people flirty, and how to go about doing it in a way that works today. It’s not always easy, but if you want to get better at it, follow these 10 tips on how to flirt like a pro!
10 Tips On How To Flirt Like A Pro
1. Use Body Language
Body language is an important part of flirting. Your posture, eye contact, and hand gestures all communicate what you’re thinking. So, if you want to flirt with someone, try standing up straight and facing them directly when talking. Make eye contact—but don’t stare—and don’t forget your other nonverbal cues: smile, nod your head in agreement or lean in slightly toward your conversation partner(1).
And don’t forget about your hands! Use them expressively while you talk and emphasize points that are particularly meaningful.
2. Keep Your Eyes Open
This is an important aspect of flirting. It’s not just about what you say, but how you look at someone and what your body language says. In order to flirt like a pro, keep your eyes open and be aware of who is around you. While it may seem obvious, most people don’t pay attention to their surroundings while they are trying to flirt with someone.
If you want your flirting skills to be effective, keep your eyes open! This will help you notice when other people might get offended by your behavior or if there is another person in earshot that might overhear what you are saying. Keep your hands off: as we mentioned above, looking at someone while talking to them is key when it comes to flirting. But what happens if there isn’t any touching involved?
What if you really want to make sure that he or she knows that you like them? There are ways to do so without actually touching them. For example, you can rest your hand on your chin or play with a strand of hair. These subtle touches will let him or her know that you are interested without having to touch him/her directly.
Be playful: one thing that most people forget when they try to flirt is being playful. Do not take yourself too seriously try to have fun with it!
3. Be Authentic
This is a very important aspect of flirting. You want to be yourself and not pretend to be someone you’re not. People can sense when you’re being insincere, so it’s better if you just be honest about who you are and what you want. If your crush catches on that you’re trying too hard, they might get turned off or even laugh at your expense.
So don’t try too hard; instead, focus on making genuine connections(2) with people around you. Don’t force anything—just go with how things naturally progress.
4. Play Along With The Joke
This is a list of ten tips for flirting, but I’m only going to give you two. If you want more, there’s an online course available for $2000. It’s worth it, trust me. My clients have all gotten jobs and dates with these techniques! (But seriously: don’t pay $2000.) The course is also great because it comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee so you can test out my techniques risk-free!
Here are your two free tips: 1) Be playful 2) Pay attention to body language. That is just really all you need to know.
5. Get In Touch With Your Inner Child
This one is simple. When you’re flirting with someone, it’s easy to be self-conscious and overly serious. But if you can tap into your inner child, you’ll be able to let loose and have fun while flirting—and that will make it easier for your potential partner to flirt back. So, how do you get in touch with your inner child? Think about when you were a kid: did you play games? Did you laugh?
If so, focus on those memories next time you go out. If not, maybe it’s time to start! You never know what could happen once you get in touch with your playful side.
6. Have Fun and Smile
Surely, you’ve heard that flirting is fun. But it’s also a skill, and like any other skill, it can be improved with practice. So if you want to flirt like a pro, start by thinking of flirting as something you do for yourself—not for anyone else. This attitude will help keep your intentions clear and make you feel more confident about what you’re doing. Surely remember a smile goes a long way!
It says I’m interested in getting to know you better. Smiling makes people feel good, which makes them more receptive to whatever you have to say next. Plus, smiling helps put people at ease so they don’t think you have ulterior motives or are trying too hard to impress them.
7. Show Interest
This is one of my favorite tips. Don’t be afraid to let someone know you’re interested in them. If you like someone, tell them! If they don’t want to date you, that’s okay—but you can still make friends with them and enjoy their company. So, if you see someone at work or school that you think is cute, say hello! Ask how they are doing, what their plans are for lunch/dinner/the weekend/etc., etc.
This will help show your interest and also allow you to get to know each other better outside of just being cute strangers. Once you get to know each other more, then it’s easier to flirt. And remember: confidence goes a long way!
8. Don’t Lie About Yourself
This is key. If you say you’re into hiking, and your date says she loves it too, but then she shows up in flip-flops and complaining about how sore her feet are after an hour, you’ve got a problem. You don’t want to be that guy who lies about his hobbies or interests just so he can get someone into bed—you know, like that famous politician from 2000 who lied about his extramarital affairs.
Be honest about what you do and don’t like; if your date doesn’t share those same interests, maybe there isn’t any chemistry there. It happens! Move on with your life (and onto Tinder). Don’t come off as desperate: A lot of people think flirting means going for some huge score on the first date.
That may work sometimes, but generally speaking, when you come off as desperate for a hookup, it turns people off more than anything else. Flirting is supposed to be fun and playful—if you show up looking like someone who desperately needs sex right now, you won’t have much luck charming anyone into bed with you later.
9. Learn From Past Experiences
This will help you from making similar mistakes in future interactions. Keep in mind that flirting is a skill, and just like any other skill, it requires practice. If you want to become an expert at flirting, you’ll need to keep at it. That said, don’t be discouraged if you make mistakes along the way; we all do!
The more experience you have with flirting, and with communicating with others in general, the better your skills will become. So, keep practicing! And remember: there is no flirting police out there who are going to arrest you for being too forward or aggressive. You can flirt as much as you want (and should). So go ahead—give it a try!
10. Give Compliments (But Not Too Many!)
This is an easy way to start a conversation. A simple I like your hair or That color looks great on you can lead into a full-blown conversation. But don’t overdo it—one or two compliments(3) will do just fine! Keep in mind that women love when men listen, so make sure you give her your undivided attention while she’s talking. The more interested you seem, the more interested she’ll be.
And if there’s one thing every woman loves, it’s a man who knows how to listen. After all, if someone listens to us and really hears what we say, then we feel valued and understood. One of my favorite ways to flirt with a woman is by showing interest in what she has to say. (Bonus points for making her laugh!)
If you can show genuine interest in what she has to say, then she’ll have no choice but to return your feelings of affection…and maybe even fall head over heels for you!
It is not the hardest task on earth but then it is not as simple as it may sounds. When next you have your crush’s number and you are looking for what to tell him or how to start the conversation(4). When next that girl walks into the restaurant and blows your mind away leaving you speechless just relax. Do not overdo it, remember you already know 10 of the best flirting tips.
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