You might think that guys are asking for all the sex positions and fetishes when they’re in bed with you, but there are some things that men don’t ask women to do because they are shy or feel like it’s unnecessary to make requests. Things guys want in bed but won’t ask you to do because they either don’t know you well enough, they’re worried you won’t be into it, or they hate making requests of people.
Most guys are afraid to speak up when it comes to sex, but the good news is that you don’t have to be shy about asking for what you want in bed (especially if you’re too scared to talk about it with your partner). Here are ten things guys would like to have more of in bed but won’t ask for.
What Are The Dirty Things Guys Want In Bed?
No matter how sweet and loving you are, men like to mix things up once in a while, so don’t be afraid to get down and dirty. We don’t all like it rough, but every guy has fantasies about trying something new.
1. Kinky Role-Play: Asking for a little role-play can spice things up in bed.
2. Oral Sex: Men love oral sex almost as much as women do, and they will never ask for it themselves.
3. Get Creative With Your Foreplay: If you have some time before sex, use that time to explore each other’s bodies with your hands or mouth (or both).
4. Touch Him Where He Wants To Be Touched: Touching his penis is important, but what about his balls? A lot of guys like having their testicles touched during foreplay.
5. Don’t Just Use Your Hands: Use your whole body to stimulate him; let him guide you when he wants more or less pressure.
6. Suck His Penis Like It Is The Last Thing You Will Ever Do On Earth
7. Come On, My Face.
What Are The Things Guys Want To Hear In Bed?
One of the biggest complaints I hear from men is that they want to be turned on, and they just can’t because their woman isn’t saying it right. Women can help themselves by knowing a few simple things that get men going. Listed below are ten things guys will love in bed if you let them know! Read these aloud to your man during foreplay or sex and watch him turn into a wild beast!
The words are listed in order of effectiveness so start with number one, not three.
1. I love how big you are.
2. You feel so good inside me/on top of me/etc…
3. I need more of you inside me/on top of me/etc…
4. This feels so good when we do it like this…
5. Harder! Faster!
6. Oh god, don’t stop…
7. You’re amazing at that
8. Don’t stop doing what you’re doing
9. That’s amazing
10. Keep doing what you’re doing
Things Guy Wants In Bed
1. A Fan
Whether you leave it on for white noise or temperature control, having a fan in your bedroom can take things to another level. A bedroom fan will help with any heat issues, but it also adds a cool breeze that makes your skin tingle and can make those intimate moments even more special.
More sex: How many times have you thought about sex with your partner over that last week? If you’re anything like most guys, it was more than once! And while we all love our wives/girlfriends/partners, sometimes we need a little encouragement to get us going. Asking for what you want is hard enough; asking for what you want during sex is even harder!
If you think she might be interested in trying something new—or if there’s something she likes that you don’t—don’t be afraid to ask her what she thinks of it or if she wants to try it out.
2. Red Wine
The French have been saying it for years, and now we know: Red wine is good for you! Men who take one to two glasses of red wine a day can reduce their risk of heart disease by 30% or more. The antioxidants in red wine are thought to work as an anti-inflammatory agent in our bodies. A win-win situation for everybody!
Enjoy your next romantic evening…and don’t forget that chocolate afterward. You deserve it! (Don’t be shy.)
3. Low Lighting
There is something incredibly sexy about candlelight and dim lighting. It makes you feel more relaxed and in control of your sexual adventures, but it also creates a beautiful ambiance for romance. If you want to make him swoon, light some candles and get ready for a hot night!
Massage: A good massage can be just what you need to relax after a long day or during an intimate moment with your partner. Many women enjoy massages as foreplay, while others prefer them as part of their post-coital routine.
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Teasing: Men love anticipation almost as much as they love satisfaction; thus, teasing plays a significant role in foreplay for men.
4. An Open Relationship
If you and your couple are having problems in your relationship, an open relationship might help. Don’t worry—genuine relationships don’t mean that you can date anyone you want and be together with both people! Instead, it means that if you’re going to date someone else and your partner agrees, then great. No hard feelings there. The same goes for your partner dating other people while still together.
It doesn’t sound straightforward, but once you figure out what works for you and your partner, it could make things a lot easier. You can go on dates or have sex without worrying about who will get jealous or hurt. You know you won’t lose each other because you agreed from day one that monogamy isn’t necessary for your relationship.
And even though it looks like it would be stressful, research shows that most couples who try non-monogamy report higher satisfaction levels than those who stay monogamous.
5. Nails, Nails, Nails
Women often do a nice manicure or pedicure, but it really should be something men spend more time and money on. Hands and feet are one of your best tools for attraction, so make sure they look their best. Also, just like women, many men will judge you based on your hands and nails. Make sure to keep them clean, trim, and well-groomed. If you have rough skin, use lotion after each shower.
A tiny bit of attention to detail goes a long way in improving your overall appearance. Don’t forget about cologne: Just because we don’t want to smell like a bouquet doesn’t mean we don’t want to smell good! Find out what scents turn her on (this can change depending on where she is in her cycle) and get some cologne that matches those scents.
Also, make sure you aren’t allergic to your cologne before you buy it, or at least make it out for a day or two first. You wouldn’t want an allergic reaction in bed!
6. Talking Dirty
While talking dirty may be a bit outside your comfort zone, it can help add some excitement to an otherwise ho-hum routine.
Talking dirty is a great way to boost confidence in and out of bed, and it’s also an easy way to take things to a new level with your partner, says Dr. O’Reilly. Make it more authentic by coming up with specific things you like about them—that way, you can both have fun reenacting them later on in bed.
Talking dirty during sex is one of those little things that will keep your relationship exciting because it makes sex less predictable and more spontaneous, adds Dr. O’Reilly. It also gives you something to look up to when you are having sex with each other! So do not be shy to ask for what you want in bed;
if your partner feels comfortable enough to tell you what they want, they should feel just as comfortable telling you what they want. If all else fails, try communicating with body language—it works for us nonverbal animals too!
7. A Change Of Position (side by side)
This is something most guys like in bed but don’t ask for because they think their girl won’t want to do it. If you have a switch-hitter in your life, tell her she can surprise you by throwing some moves on you that aren’t usually in your usual playbook (and vice versa). And for everyone else: if you like being dominated in bed, tell your girl what kind of position(s) you want her to take and make them verbal cues.
Just be sure to give her directions when you want things changed up! It doesn’t hurt to let her know how much it turns you on when she takes charge.
Sex toys: Whether you’re using one or two toys at once or using just one toy on yourself while she watches, sex toys are always fun to incorporate into sex play.
The unique thing about these items is that they can help satisfy sexual needs, including those you might not even realize you have yet! So bring out those vibrators and dildos; these items will add extra spice to your lovemaking sessions. A good rule of thumb? If you wouldn’t feel comfortable buying an item from a store, don’t use it during sex.
Oral sex: What guy doesn’t like oral sex? Most guys would say none! Oral sex is probably one of our favorite ways to get off with our partners because we get so much pleasure from pleasuring them orally.
8. The Perfect Amount Of Sweat
Guys like to see some sweat when they get in bed with a girl. It gives off a primal, and I need to have a sexy vibe that makes us super excited about what will happen next. You don’t want your hair looking too greasy or your makeup sliding off – all you need is just enough sweat for us to be like, Whoah, I can have sex with that!
Then, once we start making out, it becomes clear that we will do more than a kiss… well, then you can let loose and go crazy with it. As long as there’s nobody odor or lousy breath (see below), guys love seeing girls sweat while having sex. The perfect amount of body odor: Body odor is not a turn-on for most guys.
We don’t mind if you smell nice before getting into bed, but your natural scent should come through when things heat up. While we’re on top of you, feeling every inch of your skin against ours, smelling your perfume isn’t stimulating; instead, it feels distracting because we’re trying to focus on kissing and touching.
9. A Special Body Lotion
Guys love it when a girl takes care of her skin, but there is nothing sexier than a girl with silky smooth skin. Look for an extra hydrating lotion explicitly designed for your body and apply it after you shower or bathe. It does not have to be anything complex— anything that keeps your skin moisturized and feeling softworks. And hey, maybe even give yourself a foot massage while you’re at it!
That always feels good, right? If you can find one with lavender, all the better because lavender has been shown to lower stress levels and help promote relaxation (which will come in handy later). [Read: 20 sexy things to do in bed] A low-cut shirt: This is a no-brainer. Men are visual creatures, and they love looking at women’s bodies.
So if you want something from him, make sure he gets a glimpse of what he wants by wearing a low-cut shirt without any bra underneath. He’ll love staring at your cleavage as much as you like staring at his abs.
A bj: There is nothing more arousing than watching a woman go down on you. It might not look like much, but trust us; men appreciate getting head just as much as women enjoy giving it.
10. A massage from head to toe
Giving each other massages is a unique way to connect, bond, and relax with your partner. It can be invigorating and sensual at the same time. Gently rub oil all over their body while they rest on their back, then ask them to turn over so you can continue from head to toe. Having someone else in control of your body is a massive turn-on for many men as it gives them complete power over their partner in bed.
If he wants to touch or kiss any part of her body, he will have to wait until she tells him it’s okay. This will heighten his senses and make him more sensitive to her needs. Massage is also great because it helps both partners get rid of stress and anxiety during the day. So when you are ready to give yourself a break, try giving your man one instead! He will love every minute of it!
Final Thought On 10 Things Guys Want In Bed But Won’t Ask For
in conclusion, there are many things guys want but won’t ask for. We all have different wants and needs. It is vital to communicate with your mate about what you like or dislike during sex, especially if you aren’t pouring out sperm. Be open and honest with your mate, and explore new things together, try these tips out and let us know if they really work for you!
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