Top 10 best relationship books every couple should read. If you’re looking to deepen your bond with your partner or when it comes to the health of your relationship, the most important factor by far is communication. If you have trouble speaking up and saying what’s on your mind, you’re bound to be walking on eggshells all the time. The number one way to improve your communication skills? there are plenty of books available to help you along the way.
We’ve narrowed down the list to include our top 10 picks that will get you thinking about your relationships in a whole new way, and keep you thinking outside the box! It’s covers everything from how to become your best self in a relationship to how to keep things interesting as you grow older together. Here they are…
Top 10 Best Relationship Books Every Couple Should Read
1. The 5 Love Languages By Gary Chapman
Firstly, it was published in 2000 and is still one of Amazon’s best-selling books. Secondly, it has a 4.6 rating on Goodreads with over 200 reviews! The book teaches you how to identify your partner’s love language so that you can better express your love for them and they can do the same for you.
It also helps you understand why certain actions or words make your partner feel loved (or not). This book will help strengthen any relationship, but it’s especially helpful if yours is lacking communication or passion.
2. Why Marriages Succeed Or Fail By John Gottman
This book is based on a study of couples who have been married for at least 15 years.
Gottman found that there are four things that can predict whether a marriage will succeed or fail: 1) how satisfied each partner is in their relationship, 2) how positive or negative each partner’s outlook is on life, 3) how flexible and adaptable each partner is to change, and 4) how well each partner can calm themselves down when they feel stressed.
This book offers practical advice on how to improve your relationships by focusing on these areas.
3. The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work By John Gottman
This book is based on two decades of research and study by Dr. John Gottman, who has observed thousands of couples in his love lab at Seattle University.
In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, he outlines a step-by-step guide to help couples avoid or resolve conflicts, nurture fondness and admiration for each other, build a sense of shared meaning and purpose, and create an atmosphere that encourages forgiveness. This book is not only useful for married couples but also for those seeking to strengthen their romantic relationships.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: We all want to have a happy marriage, but sometimes we don’t know how to get there from where we are now.
I highly recommend it!
4. The Surrendered Wife By Laura Doyle
Sincerely, I’m not sure how I missed out on reading The Surrendered Wife when it first came out in 2000. I had just graduated from college and was in a serious relationship with my husband-to-be. The Surrendered Wife is essentially about giving up control and being willing to take a backseat to your partner. It was a great read for me at that time because I was so stubborn and headstrong.
Doyle does an excellent job of explaining why you should surrender yourself to your spouse without sounding like you are shirking responsibility or throwing yourself under the bus.
She also does a good job of pointing out areas where women tend to be overly controlling (i.e., household chores) and gives suggestions on how to let go of these responsibilities without losing face or feeling like you have lost power over your life.
5. Getting The Love You Want By Harville Hendrix
This book is considered a classic for couples. It’s an easy read and is full of practical advice to help you improve your relationship with your partner. The author, Harville Hendrix, has been helping couples get through their relationship problems for over 30 years and he’s one of the most respected psychologists in his field. He also has a great sense of humor that comes across in his writing style.
If you want to learn how to have a better relationship with your significant other then I highly recommend reading Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix.
6. The Power Of Now By Eckhart Tolle
This one is very important, as it teaches you how to live in the present moment. It’s a short read, and Tolle’s writing style makes it easy to understand. It’s an eye-opening book that can help you understand your own thoughts and feelings better, which will make your relationship stronger.
This book teaches you how to stop living in fear of what could happen tomorrow or next week and start enjoying today for what it is—the only day we really have.
7. Conscious Loving By Gay Hendricks
An amazing book that is filled with wisdom, inspiration, and practical tools for creating a relationship that will last. This book has been around since 2000 and it’s still an absolute must-read for anyone looking to have a more fulfilling relationship. I know many people who read it in their 20s and 30s and are now reading it again as they get married or enter into another serious relationship.
It can be applied to any type of relationship: romantic, platonic, familial, or professional. You don’t need to be in love to benefit from its teachings; you just need to want a better connection with yourself and others.
8. His Needs, Her Needs By Willard Harley Jr.
Absolutely essential reading for any couple. Based on a survey of over 3,000 married couples, Harley’s book provides an in-depth look at what men and women need from their partners to be happy. It’s an easy read with a lot of insight into why we behave in certain ways around our partners.
A must-read for every couple. 2000 AD, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott: This is another great one that explores how marriage is different than dating (and how it should be). The authors have tons of experience working with couples and put together some great exercises that can help you get past roadblocks you might not even realize are there.
This is probably my favorite book on relationships because it focuses so much on behaviors rather than just feelings or thoughts.
9. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus By John Gray
This book has sold over 50 million copies since its release in 1992. The premise of Men Is From Mars, Women Are From Venus is that men and women are from different planets and that relationships can only be successful if each partner understands how to communicate with their opposite-sex counterparts.
John Gray writes in a very conversational tone, using anecdotes and examples to illustrate his points. While some of his advice might strike you as overly simplistic or even sexist (for example, he claims that women need more time for themselves than men do), there’s no denying that many people have found success by following his advice.
If you’re looking for a quick read on relationships, check out Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
10. The Tao Of Dating By Daniel Goleman
Dating is a skill that can be learned, and Goleman’s book offers some of the best advice on how to do just that. Drawing from his own personal experience as well as several years of research, Goleman offers simple but powerful lessons on how to attract a partner while also making sure you’re in a healthy relationship.
The Tao of Dating is a must-read for anyone looking for love or wanting to strengthen their current relationship.
It is well-known that books are places filled with knowledge and pearls of wisdom, and anyone who wants great knowledge would not only come knocking but rather ready and willing to incline to the sayings.
So enjoy! However, don’t forget to hint to me in the comment section below about the author’s idea that best suits you. Also, we’ll be glad to hear you share with us some best-selling relationship books you have ever read. Thank you.
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